As a pastor I’ve learned many valuable lessons in regard to time management, prioritizing, and attentiveness. Young Pastors often tend to focus so heavily on the upkeep of the church that they slack on two other important concerns. There are three homes that the Pastor must get in order and maintain, and there is an order in which they must operate.
The qualifications of a bishop in 1 Timothy 3:4-5 reads; “One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity; (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?).”
This scripture tells us that a pastor must rule well his own house, or else how can he take care of the church of God? Here we see two houses that must be maintained, which are the pastor’s own dwelling and the church of God. The pastor’s house must be in order before he can effectively oversee the house of God. There is another home that the pastor must have in order, as well, that many overlook, which is his own body.
Paul speaks greatly about the need to keep the flesh under subjection in his epistles to the church. Romans 8:13 tells us; “For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live.” To mortify means to weaken or subdue.
Paul speaks more on a personal level in 1 Corinthians 9:27 where he speaks of putting his own body under subjection unless he becomes a castaway. The pastor must have temperance in his own flesh by submitting wholeheartedly to the Spirit. By doing so, he can then oversee his family and household which is his first ministry. Once he has obtained mastery in these two homes, then he can successfully take care of the house of God. A good pastor must not neglect his own household, spiritually or physically. If we work out-of-order and tend to the needs of the congregation more than our family, then issues may arise which will deplete the effectiveness of the pastor.
The church should be reflection of your home and your home a reflection of your body. The Lord uses the analogy of a body to define His church. This body, much like a human body, must be healthy and the mind must be sound. God is a God of order.